Welcome to Family Feelings an online community created by James Williams (Pen Name: Jamie Williamson) for families to better understand the personality trait high sensitivity so that highly sensitive children and parents can thrive in our overwhelming world. The aim of this website is to post and share useful information and give parents a private online community to connect and support each other have a look at our community groups nobody should feel alone.
A little about me
I’m not an academic. I’m not a psychologist. I’m simply a man who is very, very passionate about the subject because:
- I am a highly sensitive person.
- I have a highly sensitive daughter (and a non-highly sensitive daughter).
High sensitivity has a massive impact on my family’s life, and coming to understand the trait has transformed our lives – for the better. Before we understood high sensitivity we were bumbling about in the dark; now we’re in the light.
Finally it’s here my first eBook inspired by the Facebook community page My Highly Sensitive Child and all the wonderful people out there who care passionately. I would be so grateful if you could read, like, share, comment and review it all helps to spread the word because coming to understand highly sensitive children can transform lives.
It’s not easy to be a highly sensitive child. Nor is it always easy to raise, care for, guide and teach a highly sensitive child. Because the highly sensitive child experiences the world a little differently, and that can be difficult to understand.
This book aims to help you experience the world from the child’s perspective, so that you can better understand them and help them to grow and thrive. In this simple, concise guide I distil the reams of information available on the highly sensitive child so that you can get the knowledge you need quickly and easily.
Philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche wrote: ‘And those who were seen dancing were thought to be crazy by those who could not hear the music.’ The highly sensitive child isn’t crazy. Nor are they slow, or weak, or just ‘not tough enough’. They simply dance to a tune that not everyone can hear. This book helps you hear the music to which the highly sensitive child dances. Once you know the tune exists, and you listen for it carefully, you’ll find it’s beautiful, moving, powerful music.
This is what Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D. thought of my book. Elaine is the author of the worldwide bestsellers The Highly Sensitive Person and The Highly Sensitive Child she has pioneered the research into Highly Sensitive People.
“As the author of this truly brilliant little book, Jamie Williamson explains that he is not an academic or a psychologist. I am simply a man who feels very passionately about the subject. He is highly sensitive and so is one of his daughters, and he writes about sensitivity with both simplicity and depth. His sensitivity also shows in his book’s briefness. Caregivers of children need an author to get to the point so they can go get groceries, pick up the kids etc. Jamie’s book can be read in an hour, yet it has charming examples as well as great suggestions and a full, scientifically accurate description of the trait. Jamie is reaching out to all parents, carers and teachers of sensitive children and whether through this book or on his website, he is a wonderful resource.” – Elaine N. Aron.
A brief history of ‘highly sensitive’
Anyone who’s Highly Sensitive owes a debt of thanks to one lady: Elaine N. Aron. It was Dr Aron who, in the 1980s, first coined the term ‘highly sensitive’ in her book The Highly Sensitive Person. In doing so, she took Highly Sensitive people out of the shadow of labels like ‘shy’, ‘introverted’, ‘inhibited’ and ‘fearful’ – which do not describe us all – and for the first time introduced the notion that High Sensitivity has a positive side. All of the basic information we know about Highly Sensitive people stems from Dr Aron’s ground-breaking work, and I can’t recommend her books and articles highly enough to anyone looking to understand High Sensitivity. To find out more, visit her website at www.hsperson.com.
What does it mean to be highly sensitive?
High sensitivity (or sometimes called by its scientific name Sensory Processing Sensitivity SPS) is an innate personality trait whereby the individual has a very sensitive nervous system. That means they process information from the senses more deeply and more thoroughly which leads to:
- Keen awareness: They notice many, many tiny details and they think about these. They can’t turn off this constant awareness of the world around them and of their inner world of thoughts and feelings.
- Intense experiencing: They experience – feel – very, very intensely. It’s like they have an inner intensity dial that’s turned up several notches.
- Overload: All this awareness and intensity is exhausting. Like a small baby bewildered by lots of noise and movement and colourful toys they become overwhelmed. An overpowering need to stop the overload grows.
Who is highly sensitive?
Studies indicate that around one in five people (children and adults) are Highly Sensitive.
Why are people highly sensitive?
Because they’re made that way. You don’t learn to be Highly Sensitive; you don’t develop the trait because of your surroundings. If an individual is Highly Sensitive they have been that way since they were born. Which means there is no more choice over this part of who they are than, say, their height or their eye colour or the sound of their laugh.
What’s up with being highly sensitive?
Absolutely nothing. That’s the truth.
If an adult or a child is Highly Sensitive, they aren’t ill or damaged in some way. They don’t need to be carted off to a doctor to get a diagnosis, and then hunt for a ‘cure’. High Sensitivity is simply a personality trait, like being conscientious or being agreeable.
It’s normal to be Highly Sensitive. But it is hard to be a Highly Sensitive Person or Child in today’s world because they are a little different. And too often people see ‘different’ as ‘odd’ or ‘wrong’ in our culture.